Creative Easter Eggs With and Without Dye

Creative Easter Eggs With or Without Dye --Twice the fun, half the mess!



My kids love creating masterpieces on their Easter eggs. They each receive 18 eggs as their blank canvases, and they spend a couple hours meticulously manipulating the appearance of the egg until we have a barnyard of animals, a testament of Bible characters, a library of elliptical novellas, a museum of art, a secret test site full of aliens, and about three or four eggs reading “I luv Momy” and “Ur the bets Momy.” Those are my favorite.

Living in a travel trailer as traveling music missionaries, I’m not too crazy about the mess of egg dye, although it might be an improvement over the upholstery manufacturers put in RVs, if you know what I mean. Because I’m a dye-on-the-upholstery party pooper this year, but not an egg-fun party pooper, I researched some alternatives to the usual egg-in-cup method.

I also included some dye-related eggs for those of you who don’t have upholstery in your dining area, but who may be tired of the same old egg-in-a-cup dyeing method.

Creative Easter Eggs

We can’t start an Easter egg post without my daughter Hannah’s no-fail egg boiling method:

How to Boil Eggs: Making Perfect Hard-Boiled Eggs: The truth is that this is “no-fail” when she does, it, but I have focus issues. I focus really well, but not on what I’m doing.

How to Boil Perfect Hardboiled Eggs Every Time

No-Dye Easter Eggs

These mess-minimized ideas are perfect for small spaces, mamas who don’t want a ginormous mess, or people looking for more than an egg in a cup. We recreated the eggs in this section so you could see the final results.

Sharpie Eggs: You really don’t need a post to tell you how to use a permanent marker to doodle on an egg. My family’s been doing this for at least two generations. Still, it’s the 21st century, and you can’t have any ideas without a link and a tutorial, so here’s a tutorial which basically says to doodle on the egg. Still, it’s a fun post and gives you blown egg techniques.

Creative Easter Eggs That Don't Require DippingCreative Easter Eggs With or Without Dye Creative Easter Eggs With or Without Dye

Thumbprint Eggs: What I love about this is the potential for only the children’s thumbs to be colorful on Easter morning, as opposed to their entire hands. It’s a break with tradition, but I’ll risk it. This egg by my son is not at all what I had in mind, but he did use only his fingerprints, which was the only guidance I gave. That’s the fun of letting them get creative instead of letting them “get creative” by “helping” them do eggsactly what you want. For the idea in my head, click through the link.

Creative Easter Eggs With or Without Dye

String Eggs: The creators use a blown egg, but you can do this either on a regular boiled egg, on an already-dyed egg, or on a balloon and pop it. Popping balloons is one of the joys (or pathological fears) of childhood.

Creative Easter Eggs With or Without Dye

Aluminum Foil Egg-Dyeing Technique: Super simple and significantly less messy than traditional dyes.

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Melted Crayon Eggs: This idea from Family Fun would be great for the older kids. The eggs would be too hot for the littles unless they are closely supervised. Did you notice that remark about focus issues? We really enjoyed this method, and the final result is shiny, shimmery, splendid! (This picture doesn’t show the shine.)

Creative Egg Decorating for Kids of All Ages

Decoupage Eggs:  Drag out the junk mail and the 25-cents after holiday napkins for this fun craft. The link uses blown eggs, but my young artist used hard-boiled.

Simple and Creative Easter Eggs for Real Kids (With or Without Dye)

Artist’s Choice: Set out crayons, paints, whatever, and let the kids have at the eggs!

Crayons:

Creative Egg Decorating for Kids -- No Dye Required!

Acrylics:

Simple and Creative Easter Eggs for Real Kids (With or Without Dye)

A very unfinished sequence painting on blown eggs, depicting Jesus’ birth and death:

Simple and Creative Easter Eggs for Real Kids (With or Without Dye)

Creative Egg Dyeing

These techniques all require some sort of dye, and most involve a cup and scooper-outer or colorful fingers unless you follow this simple tip. They are variations on the norm, and will yield some lovely eggs that, quite possibly, nobody will want to eat–because they’re pretty, not grody! For pictures and directions, click on each link.

Tie-Dye Easter Eggs: All the mess is contained in the sink! If we do dye this year, this is it!

Silk-Dyed Eggs: This is a little involved, including the involvement of a trip to the thrift store or the raiding of Dad’s old silk tie collection, but the results are beautiful.

Chinese Tea Eggs…or dinosaur eggs if you have little boys

Sticker Eggs: Save those star stickers!

Kool-Aid Eggs: Cheap, nostalgic…well, not for me, since we didn’t drink Kool-aid, but we did see plenty of commercials with the freakish giant Koolaid pitcher monster crashing through walls and passing out cups full of the liquid contents of its body for children to drink. Who thought of that nightmare scenario?!

Marbleized Eggs: Just add oil to what you’re already doing!

Watercolor Eggs: Technically it’s food coloring, which is dye and which is not watercolor paint, but it doesn’t involve dipping eggs in a tip-over-able cup, and the effect is charming. Great for any age.

Natural Easter Egg Dye: The sky’s the limit here, but this should get your creative “how can I naturally stain my eggs and my children” juices flowing. For more natural dye ideas, check out this post or this cute post.

If you did the math, you realize that I have seven children each decorating 18 eggs, plus the extra dozen I boil for crashes and creative parents, so that totals 138 hard-boiled eggs to consume. I’ve got you covered there, too.

How to Boil, Peel, and Use up Hard-Boiled Eggs

How to Boil, Peel, and Use Up Hard-Boiled Eggs

For more Easter fun, follow my Simple Easter Ideas Pinterest Board.

Happy dyeing! I can’t tell you how many times I wrote “happy dying” over the years before I noticed I was randomly wishing bemused readers everywhere a pleasant death by dropping that “e.” Spelling. It saves lives…and friendships.

What are your best no-dye or dyeing (with an “e”) tips ?

 

36 Easter Recipes–Create a Quick Easter Menu Here!

36 Easter Recipes -- Easily make an Easter menu by selecting one or two items from each category!



I love food. I can’t help it. When a holiday approaches, my first thought is “Bring on the grub!”

Easter is just around the corner, and my “What are we going to eat?” musings have led me to create this list of Easter edibles from around the web. You can plan your own menu by selecting an item or two from each category, and, voila, your work is done…except for the shopping, cooking, and cleaning up. If you really want to know, the asterisked items are on our menu if we have access to an oven on our travels.

Enjoy!

Breakfast or Brunch

36 Easter Recipes -- Easily make an Easter menu by selecting one or two items from each category!

Baby Frittatas: Aw, little babies. So cute in their muffin tins. Make ahead and reheat in the morning.

Breakfast Easter Baskets: Two things here: cuteness and bacon. My kids would love this, and I would accidentally make way too much bacon. Yum, bacon.

**Deviled Eggs and Stuffed Chicks: An adorable addition to the Easter buffet, or a quick breakfast before heading off to church or the egg hunt.

Chocolate Bunny Oatmeal: I don’t have a link for this recipe; I don’t even know how this idea leaped into my head. Still, it’s borderline genius if you have an eight-year-old boy, which I do, thank you God and hubby. Make oatmeal in the crockpot so it’s ready when you wake up. Spoon it out into bowls and put a small-ish chocolate bunny in the center of each bowl. As it melts, your children will have chocolate oatmeal. Genius…or is that too much like a cute little bunny in a pit of hot lava death? Whether it’s brilliant or psychotic, it’s a unique way to start Easter morning with a blast of sugar. Woo hoo!

**Resurrection Rolls: This starts Easter morning off with sugar and the empty tomb. It’s a cute way to help little ones remember the significance of Easter. We’re doing this mid-week, since Easter morning is busy busy busy.

Easter Overnight Breakfast Casserole: There are about as many recipes for make-ahead breakfast casserole as there are mamas who want just five more minutes in bed on holidays. I chose this one because it’s a 20-year-old recipe from church ladies–face it, church ladies make the best casseroles. Period. Adjust it by swapping meats, changing breads, adding more veggies–the kids will be too bleary-eyed to pick them out.

Easter Main Course

How to Cook a Simple Ham: This is our favorite way to prepare a simple ham. Sometimes simple is best. We set ours out on the buffet line, but it would do great at a sit-down dinner as well.

**Roast Pork Loin with Herb Stuffing: This looks so fantastic, I’m going to cry. Why does good food make me want to cry? Get help, Woman! I would totally simplify this recipe for the sake of my budget and my simple philosophy, but I can’t imagine how you could destroy the goodness unless you totally lit the whole kitchen on fire, in which case, I’d eat it anyway.

Garlic-Herb Roast Leg of Lamb: Still cryin’ here, People. Lamb sounds complicated and expensive, but this recipe from All You is simple and will run you under $4 per person. (That’s a lot of money in my book, but my book involves feeding nine people every day.)

Herb-Stuffed Roasted Cornish Game Hens: My kids love it when they get to eat their own bird without sharing! Look for a sale, and you’re set. You could also halve them, but that’s not quite as much fun as eating a whole hen.

Garlic-Herb Roasted Chicken: Here’s a cheaper alternative to most of the above. You can usually find a bird for under a buck a pound, or very near. Until I get my “I didn’t know chicken could be this good” recipe posted, I’ll direct you to this one. It looks good…but I’ve never made it, since mine is so juicy. Please remember to brine your bird first. 

Easter Sides

36 Easter Recipes -- Easily make an Easter menu by selecting one or two items from each category!

Starches:

**Pioneer Woman’s Creamy Mashed Potatoes: What’s not to love about cream cheese and cream with a little tater thrown in? Yes, please! Prep your potatoes ahead of time and keep them from turning brown with my simple method.

Crockpot Wild Rice Pilaf: If you have sacrilegious people in your family who don’t particularly care for the amazing goodness of mashed potatoes (such as my eldest and hubby), here’s a crockpot rice dish that whips up quickly. Optionally, leave out the dried cherries and nuts to take the cost and effort down.

Easy Scalloped Potatoes: Easy. Yummy. Replace the milk with stock if you or your guests are dairy intolerant.

Cheesy Sausage Potatoes: Click the link and scroll down for a cheesy sausage crockpot recipe from my friend Stacy who will never steer anyone wrong with potatoes, cheese, and crockpots. Crockpot cooking frees you up for other things, like nibbling the ears off the chocolate bunnies while the kids are hunting for eggs. Wait…what? I didn’t say that.

Warm Veggie Sides:

**Zucchini Fettuccine with Rosemary Butternut Creme Sauce: This side dish looks amazing! It’s perfect for the gluten-free, dairy-free, nut-free, soy-free, potato-free, etc-free crowd at your table.

**Roasted Cauliflower with Lemon and Garlic: Roasting any veggie is ridiculously simple and the taste is remarkable. My kids and even my husband will eat anything roasted (except that Lego dude–sorry about that, Kids). Swap out the cauliflower for absolutely any veggie–we’re using butternut squash and carrots on Easter, but our faves are cabbage, broccoli, and Brussels sprouts–crazy, I know!

**Sauteed Green Beans: Super simple, this is a weekly go-to for our family.

**Holiday Peas: This is ridiculously simple and tasty. My Mom did this with Ritz,  browned butter, and broccoli and we kids never left a veggie on our plates. Use the veggies and crackers of your choice, even gluten-free.

Grilled Asparagus Wraps: Get the hubby involved in the cooking with these grilled asparagus wraps. They look really nifty. (Who says nifty? I do!) I know that hubby-doing-the-grilling remark may be considered sexist, but let’s face the facts–I blow up grills and singe all the hair off my arms, my man doesn’t. I birth babies and make milk, my man doesn’t. We all have our gifts–I’m cool with that. Gender differences are nifty. By the way, you could also throw these in the oven or replace with green bean bacon bundles.

Chilled Sides:

Deviled Eggs Pasta Salad: This is a brilliant and simple make-ahead alternative to deviled eggs. Noodles. I love noodles.

Spring Vegetable Salad: This is a great cold dish for the allergic crowd, although it does contain mayo which commonly has eggs and soy. You could swap it out for yogurt, or, hey, leave it out. It’s a good buffet dish.

Easy Coleslaw: If you’re hosting a simple buffet, try a simple make-ahead coleslaw.

Strawberry Salad with Poppy Seed Dressing: This is a simple, fast make-ahead dish. My family would love this without the sugar, so don’t feel you need to use it…or at least all of it.

Bread-like food:

Easter Bunny Bread Recipe: Cuteness abounds with this bunny bread. If you don’t want to use frozen bread dough, you could try my popular super simple bread recipe or the bread of your choice.

Pineapple Stuffing: This is totally a dessert disguised as a healthy side dish, but if you ate the chocolate bunny oatmeal for breakfast, you probably don’t really care.

Simple Biscuits: Every occasion is an excuse to make biscuits. It’s Monday–biscuit time! It’s 2:00–biscuit time! I stubbed my toe–yes! Biscuit time!

Find your own yummy veggies here:

Simple Ways to Spruce Up Veggies: This is my all-time favorite Pinterest board and I have no idea why. If you need some simple but delicious vegetable side dishes for your Easter buffet or dinner table, or for any day of the week to make your family happier and healthier at the same time, check this out. Seriously good stuff on here–we eat many of them, especially the Brussels sprouts. You heard me.

Easter Treats

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Coconut Chick Cookie Picture by Chocolate-Covered Katie

**Key Lime Pie: This has nothing to do with Easter at all. I can’t even remotely make a connection except God created key limes. Still, I’m going with it, because it’s what we’re having. There are two recipes to click on. We’re using the first one as opposed to the “lightened key lime pie,” because the words “lightened” and “pie” do not belong in the same conversation.

Chocolate Peanut Butter Eggs: These “eggs” from my friend Stacy at Stacy Makes Cents are so good you’ll want to slap your mama! I can’t comprehend that expression, but at the writing of this we’re in the south, and Stacy’s a southerner, so, I borrowed that bit of southern love from her. You’re safe, though, Mom. I won’t be slapping any mamas…except maybe myself for eating way too many of these babies! If you feed your family only one thing at Easter this year, it should be this. That’s what I’d pick!

Paleo Chocolate Peanut Butter Eggs: These will cost more than Stacy’s eggs, but they are paleo and other-diet-friendly. If you have some alternative eaters joining you, or if you are one yourself, give these a go. Drool!

Dessert Fruit Pizza: It’s a cookie and it’s fruit. I mean, a cookie…and fruit! Are we on the same page here? I’ve never tried this, but…it’s a cookie! It’s only Easter-y because it’s shaped like an egg, but, seriously, why is a ham Easter-y? It’s a dead pig shaped like…a butt cheek, when you think about it.

Coconut Cookie Chicks: A super cute dessert idea for the vegan or gluten-free crowd from Chocolate-Covered Katie who can do no wrong in the kitchen. (See the picture above, posted with permission.) Mine would never make it to the bird stage. I would eat the macaroons alone, and then drown my sorrows for having no macaroons left by eating the rest of the ingredients.

Easter Bird’s Nest Cookies: Just the word “cookie” should sell you on these.

Easter Kit Kat Cake: If you eat this, you will die. Before you die, however, you will hear oodles of “That’s too cute!” and “How did you do that?” and “Holy shmoly, are those Kit Kats?!” Shmoly isn’t really holy, just so you know.

Peeps Sunflower Cake: I told myself in my most authoritative voice not to post any recipes with peeps in them. Apparently self has issues with authority.

Lemon Chiffon Easter Cake: This dessert is a little–okay, a lot–more grown up than the other desserts, which means you probably shouldn’t grab a piece with your hands and shove it in your mouth and stick a second piece in your pocket for later and put a third piece on your plate when people are looking. Don’t be afraid of chiffon cakes. They’re not as hard as people say they are. Of course, I said that about algebra, and now my firstborn has trust issues.

Some Totally Brilliant Easter Recipes: My daughter’s link-up to her favorite Easter treats.

Happy eating, and most importantly, have a blessed and meaningful Easter!

What’s on your Easter menu?

 

10 Tips for Sticking to Your Budget at Christmas

10 Tips for Sticking to Your Budget at Christmas

Christmas is just around the corner. While your kids are enjoying sweet dreams of stuffed stockings and presents under the tree, you’re suffering through nightmares about your budget shattering like Humpty Dumpty on an off day. It’s a legitimate fear. Through some strange twist of cosmic irony, people who are religiously responsible with their finances eleven months out of the year, often ditch reason and overspend when Christmas temptations roll around.

Not this year!

Today I’m over at Stacy Makes Cents sharing ten money-saving principles for the holidays (and all those other days) to help ward off holiday-induced budgetary dementia and financial frazzle.

Pop on over to Stacy Makes Cents to read more.

Truth in The Tinsel: An Interview With the Creator

Holiday shoppers are running around in a frenzy of excitement and spending, their eyes on the latest deal. Christmas trees are being put up, and all eyes are on the twinkling lights and the ornaments. Christmas baking is beginning, and hungry eyes are eyeing the sweets and treats.

Let’s pause to consider one thing: with so much distracting us during December, how can we focus all eyes on the manger?

I am super-excited to interview Amanda White, creator of Truth in the Tinsel: An Advent Experience for Little Hands. She is sharing with us her ideas for using Truth in the Tinsel to focus our children and ourselves on the manger while still simplifying Christmas.

Check out Truth in the Tinsel.

Add Meaning and Simplicity to Your Advent Season: Truth in the Tinsel, An Interview with the Creator and a Discount Code

At The Simple Homemaker, we’re all about simplifying life to regain the joy in our family, faith, and, this time of year, Christmas. How does Truth in the Tinsel help maintain a simple, joyful Christmas season, despite adding another activity into a busy time of year?

Well, Truth in the Tinsel can seem overwhelming because when was the last time you did a devotion and craft with your kids 24 days in a row?! But that’s exactly why Truth in the Tinsel is such a great activity–Christmas is the best time to lead your kids to Jesus. The stores, the television and even people’s front yards are celebrating Jesus’ birth. We can either choose to go along with all their celebrations and be swept away with the craziness or choose to slow down a bit, focus on spending time with our family and on the most important story of all.

My goal in writing the book was to empower parents. I wanted to give them a tool or vehicle to tell their kids about Jesus and his birth. The book includes detailed supply lists, easy tutorials and minimal “hard work” on your part. I’ve written the hard parts so you can do the fun part!

I know you offer printable ornaments to simplify Truth in the Tinsel for busy parents. Are there other ways it’s adaptable for people who don’t have the opportunity to do this nightly? For example, some parents work odd hours or only have time on weekends. Some grandparents would love to do this, but only see the children for a few days during the holidays. And some didn’t find this terrific program until the week before Christmas, like us two years ago!

I know not everyone (myself included) can do every single activity! 24 days is a long time! So, first of all–give yourself permission to not do it every day! You will be too busy one day and that’s fine! Just pick up where you left off!

I’ve also included alternate schedules in the back of the book. There is one for just 6 days that cover each of the traditional Scripture passages. There is a 10 day version that focuses on just the people/characters of the story. And even one for 7 days that is about the prophecies about Jesus and his life.

I’d love your ideas for long-distance Advent fun with Truth in the Tinsel. Could grandparents, for example, Skype the lesson with a grandchild, and the child can color the printed ornaments and show Grandma and Grandpa on Skype the next day?

Oh my goodness, I totally love that idea! I’ve always thought it would be fun–especially with multiple kids (like do you really want 5 of the exact same ornament?!) to give your ornaments as gifts. You could deliver them to nursing homes, use them as gift toppers or even box a few up and ship them off to Grandma for her tree! And you could include photos of the kids making the ornaments!

I’m sure readers share stories with you about how Truth in the Tinsel has made their Christmases more focused and joyful. What is your favorite story?

I hear stories all the time about how kids are begging to read the Bible every day in December, how kids can tell the entire story of Jesus’ birth at just 3 years old, how parents and kids felt closer with one another after doing Truth in the Tinsel together each night, how churches brought parents together when they gave the ebook as a gift, how kids will talk about the stories and ornaments in the middle of the year and more. But one of my favorite stories is a little boy who was just 4 years old asked Jesus to be his Lord and Savior because he was so intrigued and impressed with learning that Jesus came into the world to to be a light in the darkness (this is day 1 in the ebook). He recognized the own darkness in his life and asked Jesus to be the Light in his heart. How cool is that? A mama was purposeful enough to do the devotions with him, talk to him and God’s Word did what God promised–grew and produced results in that little boy’s heart. It wasn’t anything hard, just reading stories and making crafts. Who knew that could make an eternal difference?

Do you have any final thoughts for my readers, my happy crowd of simplifiers trying to make life less complicated, especially at Christmas?

Simplifying, to me, doesn’t always mean getting rid of everything and being still. Sometimes it means focusing. It means cutting off the fat, the unimportant and frivolous. I hope that’s what Truth in the Tinsel can encourage parents to do at Christmas. To cut off the frivolous parts of Christmas and put a laser-focus on the things that are most important.

Thank you, Amanda!

Add Meaning and Simplicity to Your Advent Season: Truth in the Tinsel, An Interview with the Creator and a Discount Code

Personally, my family has used Truth in the Tinsel with our seven children for two years now. Not everyone in our brood fits the recommended age, but you’re never too old or young to hear the message of the manger or to spend time together. Some of my children made fancier or simpler crafts that they improvised, and some skipped the crafts and merely listened. It was a wonderful experience, and no, we didn’t do it every day. It’s easy to pick up anywhere and jump in, just like Amanda said.

Buy Truth in the Tinsel here.

Read my review from last year here.

Please hit the share buttons and spread the word about Truth in the Tinsel. Other mamas will thank you!

How to Give Ebooks as Gifts (Even to People Who Don’t Use Computers)

Giving electronic gifts used to mean giving electronics. Now it means sending a file through cyber space to someone else’s stocking electronic device. I can’t entirely wrap my mind around this, but two things about it I really love:

  1. No wrapping paper mess.
  2. Books…lots and lots and lots of books requiring very little money or shelf space.

So how does one give ebooks as gifts, especially with Christmas around the corner?

How to Give Ebooks as Christmas Gifts (Even to Someone Who Never Reads Ebooks)

Allow me to offer you my simple ideas. (If you’re looking for something complicated, Non-Techie Mama is burying her head in the sand.)

How to Give Ebooks as Gifts

Sending a PDF from your computer:

  1. Write an email to the recipient.
  2. Click “attach file” or whatever your email provider uses, such as a paperclip icon.
  3. Locate and select the ebook you want, which should be easy since you just organized your entire ebook library!
  4. Send the email.
  5. Delete the ebook from your own files. Why? Because you purchased one license to that book, and by having two copies, you would be breaking copyright law and could go to jail forever. Okay, that last part’s a lie, but the authors did work very hard to write that book, and you’re robbing them by duplicating it.

Gifting E-reader Books

  • If you are sending a Kindle book as a gift, check out Amazon’s thorough and simple gifting guide. Remember, recipients do not need a Kindle to be able to read a Kindle book on other electronic devices, such as a PC or smartphone. They can download the free Kindle reading app.
  • If your recipient prefers Nook books (that’s so Seussian), check out Barnes and Noble’s gifting page…although I personally don’t find B&N’s Nook options as user-friendly as Amazon’s Kindle world.

How To Give Ebooks to Non-Techies

Face it, not everyone is totally in love with the technological age. That doesn’t mean you can’t take advantage of the affordable gift-giving potential of ebooks. Simply print the bundles front and back and package them in an attractive and useful manner. Some ebook authors post the pictures at the end of their books instead of interspersed throughout, in case you want to save ink and skip the pictures. Savvy.

Copyright alert: If you print the entire book to give away, you must still delete it from your files. Otherwise it’s like photocopying an entire book for someone else. Not legal! If you only print a recipe or a poem or a bit of encouragement here and there from different books, that’s no different than copying over a recipe from a hardcopy book. Just make sure you give credit to the author always! At least, that’s how I understand it. If my next post comes to you from the penitentiary, don’t take my advice.

Here are some printed ebook gifting options. Any appropriate ebooks would do. This is just a sampling of my ideas to trigger your creative side:

You get the picture. Print them attractively or practically, and make it the entire gift, add a few supplies or related items, or add it to a bigger gift as the icing on the Christmas cake. You are limited only by your creativity…or by my creativity if you’re not thinking at all.

I’d love to hear your best e-book gifting ideas.

Does Valentine’s Day Complicate Relationships?

At the risk of sounding like a hater, I admit that I’m not big on Valentine’s Day the way it is often celebrated in my great big beautiful USA. What’s not to like?

Does Valentine's Day Complicate Relationships? {TheSimpleHomemaker.com}

Here are the Valentine’s Day biggies that rub me the wrong way:

  1. Crowds of “last-minute” men in the 20-items-or-less aisle hoping their tinted carnations and cheap chocolates show enough “love” to appease their significant others, but knowing they’re probably in for a fight. 
  2. The false belief that the obligatory expression of affection on that day is, indeed, affection.
  3. The thought from far too many women that if a man doesn’t open his wallet on Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and Sweetest Day (if you’re in the Midwest), the love and commitment he shows the rest of the year is negated.
  4. The thought by a normally-negligent man that a pink bear and a $4 box of Russel Stovers will cover his backside.

Grrrr. Yes, I growled. Out loud.

Let’s get one thing straight right here, right now: Valentine’s Day the way it is celebrated today is a complication, and no relationship needs complication.

A Simple Valentine Tradition that Stuck

Does that mean we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day? No, it doesn’t. At The Simple Home, we keep it simple and fun…no unrealistic expectations!

This year we are having a Post-it note party. Each family member gets a pad of Post-it notes to write (or draw) on and exchange. It’s simple, heartfelt, creative, and a ton o’ laughs!

The Post-it exchange is a tradition that started accidentally the year my husband and I forgot the date (a regular occurrence) and hastily scratched out our feelings on Post-its. It was my favorite Valentine ever, and it stuck…no Post-it pun intended there.

Perhaps the main reason it stuck is because the simplicity of it fits our relationship.

Does Valentine's Day Complicate Relationships? {TheSimpleHomemaker.com}

Keeping Simplicity in Our Marriage

One thing my husband has always appreciated about me is my lack of expectation…about some things. I don’t demand (or expect) a big deal made out of Valentine’s Day. I don’t demand (or expect) a big to-do on our anniversary. (Truth be told, I don’t expect him, much less me, to even remember our anniversary!) I don’t expect my birthday to be fussed over.

I do expect effort to be put into the relationship itself, however.

He appreciates that lack of focus on ceremony…and so do I.

We have always focused more on the marriage than on ceremony. The planning we put into our wedding was nothing, nothing compared to what we have whole-heartedly poured into the marriage. We place more emphasis on the days than the dates, on the day-to-day marriage than on the “Hallmark” occasions. We always have, we always will, even if that means a Post-it note instead of roses and restaurants on Valentine’s Day.

How to Not Complicate Your Relationship {TheSimpleHomemaker.com}

Does this sound utterly unromantic to you?

Romance in the Real World

Life is dirty. It’s gritty. It’s real. We are two very real people in a very real life loving each other in a very real, raw way. That’s not romantic in and of itself.

Or is it…?

I see young love, which is nice…and young…and lovely…and idealistic…and romantic, maybe, but the most romantic thing I’ve ever seen is the old couple, scarred with years of raw gritty love, still standing by each other, still grumping and fussing and  pestering and nagging and laughing and crying and holding on tightly. Still living together, still loving, still forgetting anniversaries and laughing about it, still hurting and forgiving. Knowing each other so well…so very well…but still learning about each other.

How to Not Complicate Your Marriage {TheSimpleHomemaker.com}

That’s romantic in my book.

And that’s simple love.

Simple love does not mean it’s easy. Simple love means it’s uncomplicated.

How do I Know if I’m Complicating my Marriage?

I have to, from time to time, look in a mirror and ask that crazy lady a few questions:

  • Am I complicating my marriage by focusing on dates more than days?
  • Do I put too much emphasis on appearances and dreams rather than on the raw grit of reality?
  • Are my expectations based on a movie or a friend’s (not necessarily accurate) portrayal of her marriage?
  • Do I hold my man up to the standard someone else has set (say, my grandfather, his dad, Mr. Darcy) instead of encouraging him to be the man God intended him to be?
  • Do I forgive and accept him the way I want and expect and need to be forgiven and accepted?
  • Am I loving my man out loud for who he is every day, or scorning him because today, on Valentine’s Day, he didn’t follow the script I wrote in my head?

Think about it.

Periodically I revisit a 14-day series I wrote on building strong families. When the nation is focused on the mush and gush, I like to build up my family’s foundation a bit, and remind myself (because I need reminding) what really matters in a marriage and on Valentine’s Day…and…I can’t believe I’m saying this…it isn’t chocolate.

Love in Action - Building Strong Families {TheSimpleHomemaker.com}

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts below. Happy Valentine’s Day.

 

 

How To Mail a Hug – A 10-Step Picture Tutorial

Today I welcome four charming guests sharing their 10-step picture tutorial on How to Mail a Hug.

How To Mail A Hug - 10-step picture tutorial from The Simple Homemaker's children

This idea originated at Tons of Fun. Her adorable version of a long-distance hug uses paint and ribbon, neither of which we have in our travel trailer. Therefore, we embraced creativity and frugality to create our own versions using what we had on hand. We spent no money (apart from postage) and added no “stuff” to our lives. (See how you can apply simplicity to every aspect of life, saving money, having fun, and avoiding clutter in the process!)

Now I will turn the stage over to my delightful guests, four of my seven children, as they explain in pictures how to mail a hug.

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Pop it in an envelope and you’re all set! Simple, sweet, and suitable for any time of year!

Do you know anybody who could use a hug in the mail?